Take the Path of Least Resistance Young Ladies! It's so easy to fall into the pits of what is happening in your enviroment, its so easy to do what everyone else is doing. Let me ask you this? What do you want? What would you dare to dream if there was a guarantee that nothing could stop you? What would you dare do if you thought that it was absolutely possible?

Think about that, SweetGyrl we teach the importance of dreaming without other people negative beliefs, and the nay-sayers of what your heart knows and says it wants, and can have!

Think about those questions, It's important!

Think about it, No nay-says, no blocks, nothing!

Dare to dream and Work to win!

Just wanted to throw that in there!

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Friday, February 16, 2007

Sweet Gyrl - helping "gyrls" live their dreams since 2005

"That Journalist" states,

"I had the pleasure of interviewing Ms. Kimberly, founder of SweetGyrl, Inc. I found her on MyBlogLog and was intrigued by the organization she had on her site, so I asked if she would mind if I put her interview on my site".

Fast forward two weeks and here it is! Read on to find out more about SweetGyrl and how you can help!

"What exactly is SweetGyrl"?

SweetGyrl, Inc, is an organization that promotes healthy lifestyles and living for young women. It's a venue that really gets them steered away from the grown up stuff that so many of our young women get caught up in.

For example, often times gyrls have hidden gifts like playing the flute, singing, gymnastics, acting. They have dreams, however they may live in an environment or go to a school environment that does not support that.

Your friends are all having sex, your friends are all in juvenile detention, your Friends are all haters and fight another group of girls, your mom was a teenage mom and is now living a life of struggle.That becomes your reality, that becomes your way of living and being.

Your best friend just brought home a new baby and she is beefing with the baby's father cause he is messing with another girl and she wants to fight her. All of this happening at 16!! Whew, how can you even begin to really dream or want more out of life. What you see is who you become - it's unfortunate but it's true. It happened to me, it's my story.

SweetGyrl is my story to simply put. Having worked as a Psychotherapist and in the school setting, I see it over and over and over again. It breaks my heart it really does. SweetGyrl is about dreams, helping gyrls live their dreams, keeping their dreams alive. So therefore, I created SweetGyrl Inc.

"Is it mainly online"?

SweetGyrl is all over the US online, its a forum for gyrls to have healthy chats and read about the struggles of other young women and be able to ask "Wow, I am going through that, how do you cope with that?"

We are also working to make SweetGyrl more like an after school program or to go even further more like an affordable Sylvan Learning Center but for gyrls, that is our long term vision.

So basically someone could buy the SweetGyrl product, logo, curriculum, etc, and set up shop and service youth in their community. All of this is in the works now, I have been looking to reach out to celebrities that believe in the idea for support, endorsement, and possibly sponsoring gyrls for the program.

It's huge and I love it, it takes time thought, but I really have vision for this program.When was it founded?SweetGyr was founded by me in 2005 at home in Maryland.

"Did you come up with the idea by yourself"?

Yes I did, I woke up one morning really early and it was put on my heart to create SweetGyrl, I wanted something that was really gyrlie and really fun, something I could dive into, something that felt soft and giggly and sweet. So I used the name SweetGyrl.

I was working as a Psychotherapist for a wrap around company (social services) keeps youth in the home by giving them home services.I woke up and said I want to create a training company that caters to gyrls only right now. So I hired an assistant and I told her what I wanted and we got to writing and thus SweetGyrl was born.

Please check out www.sweetgyrlnetwork.blogspot.com for updates, I am also writing a book called "The Truth behind SweetGyrl" and also the website, http://www.sweetgyrl.org/.

"What type of promotion are you doing to spread the word"?

Well since its only me, I have been doing blogging, and joining online forums. I also contacted Eva Longoria's publicist Liza Anderson, and we tried to get Eva, but her schedule did not permit. So now we are basically trying to revamp and restructure our marketing approach.

"What do you hope to accomplish with this"?

I am hoping that young women will see this program as their way of saying, "Yes, I can still live my dreams!" We offer assessments that help gyrls get to the core of what they really want and dream big dreams.

We help them set up goals that bring the dream alive! We help them stay focused, no matter what it is they want, and we point out to them that what they see right now does not negate their future at all. I want gyrls to dream and enjoy this time with themselves!

They only get to be gyrls once, enjoy it RIGHT NOW!

See http://www.sweetgyrlnetwork.blogspot.com/for updates and ongoing information on the meat and potatoes of how SweetGyrl came about and what's happening.

Go to http://www.sweetgyrl.com/ for more information!

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"Why I wish I would have stayed a Virgin"

I had chosen one "unsuccessful" relationship after another. Nothing ever lasted, and on some levels they were "All Abusive" whether Emotional, Physical, Abandonment, ect. This went well into me being an adult, until one day, as one author would put it "My soul just opened up" and I said "NO MORE SHEETS"! as another inspirational Author would put it.

I wish I had stayed a virgin because, I would have had more self-esteem and confidence. I would have focused more on me, and the activities that I wanted for my life.

For whatever reason, I felt that being a Virgin, I was missing out on something, that boys would not want me, and if they knew I was a Virgin, they would have only wanted one thing. I also felt that I would keep my boyfriend, if I did not give him what he wanted, I was afraid that someone else would take him from me and give it to him and satisfy him, I was afraid of losing him.

Self esteem was shot, he totally disrespected me afterwards, he stayed whatever I mean whatever came to his mouth or hands. Also, as a teen my self worth was totally shot as well. Some would disagree with what I am saying, however research after research shows this to be true.

It gets even worst when you start to date men that won't commit, or don't want to put a title on the relationship, or cannot tell you after years of dating, sexual intimacy, and emotional intimacy where the relationship is headed or what he wants out of it, or is he even sure that its you that he wants! All the while he is keeping his options open for something even better (in his mind) This is damaging to young women's self esteem and self worth, she starts to wonder, hmm, what is wrong with me? what am I doing wrong? how come, ect, ect.

EXCERPTS FROM THE BOOK "The Truth behind SweetGyrl"

Read below.

Virgins Make the Best Valentine's Valentine tradition that works.National Review OnlineFeb 14, 2007By Patrick F. Fagan, when out-of-wedlock births are nearing 40 percent, when most children will reach age 18 without both of their parents together, celebrating St.

Valentine's Day has less and less the note of joy and romance in it.Yet America needs a real Valentine tradition precisely because the messages we give our teenagers pushes more and more young men and women to reject each other rather than to belong to each other. The vast majority of teenage young men putting on condoms and teenage young women taking the pill has no intention of marrying those whom they bed. They join in the embrace meant to last forever, knowing all the while that they will likely walk away from each other.

Thus they reject ‹ and get used to being rejected ‹ in their intimate lives, and in the process build not a culture of belonging and romance but one of rejection and suffering. They pay a price bigger than most suspect.A few years ago Robert Rector and Kirk Johnson of the Heritage Foundation did an analysis of the 1995 National Survey of Family Growth and found that for women 30 or older those who were monogamous(only one sexual partner in a lifetime) were by far most likely to be still in a stable relationship (80 percent).

Sleeping with just one extra partner dropped that probability to 54 percent. Two extra partners brought it down to 44 percent. Who would have thought that the price of sleeping with even one partner would lead to divorce for almost half of those who had only one extra tryst?It would seem virgins make not only the best Valentines but the best mothers ‹ for raising children well means developing their capacity to be married parents who know how to stay married and how to select a mate who can do the same ‹ a long-term task made for two parents who love each other.

Making babies is the easy part of parenting: It hardly takes any effort or acculturation, hence all the effort Planned Parenthood puts into its agenda.Today in our culture everyone, even Planned Parenthood sometimes,passes on to girls the cultural script that mothers and children belong together. But the difficult script of 3male and female together forever2 gets little attention.

Sexual attraction or the falling in love comes easy ‹ no scripting is required for that. Even belonging together for a while comes easily enough. It is only after the"delightful madness" of being in love fades that the long haul of truelove begins. It is virgin women who have the greater capacity to find the men capable of it.But fewer and fewer of our young men are capable of this long haul.Consider how teenage boys are being scripted.

How many pick up the message that it is best to have as many women as possible, versus those who pick up the message to find 3their one and only true love2?How many get the predator/hunter message instead of the message to become the "protector of their love"?It is easy for men to take to the predator message; it may even seem to be hardwired. By contrast it takes a massive cultural effort to make the protector lesson take hold among men. Most cultures (not ours anymore, alas) have put enormous energy into the protector message because the children of each generation need their fathers at home with them. Almost a quarter of our children are aborted today, 80percent outside of marriage, while 60 percent of those who do manage to make it alive through the birth canal eventually end up with their parents rejecting each other.

We, the United States, have become one huge culture of rejection.While 80 percent of the virgins in the Rector-Johnson study above maintained a stable relationship, 20 percent failed. That data set cannot tell us but I suspect that many of these latter virgins were foolish enough to trust themselves to a "predator"-scripted male.Meanwhile, their non-virgin sisters who married after they had given their virginity to someone other than their husbands were all by no means doomed to divorce, but the data indicate the majority was. From Steve Nock's research on Virginia divorces, we know that roughly two thirds were initiated by the wives.

Extrapolating from Rector-Johnson's research I bet most of the wives in Example did not come to their husbands as virgins, but before marriage were already used to rejection and rejecting and to moving on to another man. This is just a hypothesis and it may be proved wrong, but checking it out will make for a very interesting study.In the meantime, for the young people who want to have a lifelong valentine in their future, the lesson is already clear:

Consider virginity. It is the natural prequel to the love that lasts.‹ Patrick F. Fagan, is the William H.G. FitzGerald Fellow at the Heritage Foundation.National Review Online -http://article.nationalreview.com/?q=MGNiODQ4YmEzMjc1ODc1YTYwNmIxM2Q5ZWZkZmE3YTM= *********************

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KEEPING THE DREAM ALIVE! OUR DREAMS! YOUTH'S DREAMS, ESCAPING VIOLENCE AND PEER PRESSURE IS WHAT ITS ABOUT!! Get any teens you know in the Tri State Area to the Free Teens Media Summit.

We will hold our 4th annual Free Teens Media Summit on March 23-25 at the Fairview Lake Camp in Newton, NJ. The Media Summit brings together creative artists and NY/NJ area media professionals with teens seeking to use their talents to create an alternative culture that honors healthy man-woman relationships.

Featured workshops will include a presentation on Hip Hop Culture &Media Literacy and sessions on1) Theater Performance 2) Visual Art/Murals 3) Video Production 4) Recording Your Own Music 5) Swing and Hip Hop 6) Photo Journalism- Main Dining Room7) Spoken Word (Poetry)Students will have the opportunity to work together with others in their area of greatest interest under the guidance of media professionals in the areas of theater, visual art, Swing and Hip Hop dance, music recording, video (Music, documentary, or narrative video), Photojournalism and Spoken word and to share their group efforts at the conclusion of the weekend!

And, also, meet new friend sand have fun!To see a video overview of the Media Summit, a schedule and the summit application, visit (http://culturemachine.com/)! And pass the word to your friends and any aspiring teen media artists you know!

SweetGyrl Promotes Abstinence. Reason being? Gyrls are not ready for the emotional responsibility that comes with sex. Especially if they already have a low self esteem or they are trying to get away from something or someone (home, mom, abusive environment). Gyrls are very emotional beings for the most part, and they are needy (its true). Boys develop and mature at a slower rate than gyrls. Emotionally they are simply not there.

Read this article, it ties into SweetGyrl's beliefs and philosophy, also read "The Boyfriend" it ties in perfectly and it gives a perfect real life scenario of why young women should not engage in sexual behavior.

Also check out http://www.sweetgyrl.org/.

Reuters Health February 5, 2007http://www.reutershealth.com/en/index.html Sex of any kind can harm teens emotionally Last Updated: 2007-02-05 9:08:18 -0400 (Reuters Health)By Amy Norton NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Teenagers often suffer emotional consequences from having sex, even when it's "only" oral sex, a study published Monday suggests. Researchers at the University of California San Francisco found that up toone-half of the sexually active teenagers in their study said they'd ever felt "used," guilty or regretful after having sex. Though such feelings were less common among teens who'd only had oral sex,about one-third reported some type of negative consequence.

Dr. Sonya S. Brady and Bonnie L. Halpern-Felsher report the findings in the journal Pediatrics. The study, according to the researchers, suggests that parents should be sure to talk with their kids about the potential negative effects of having oral sex, not only intercourse. "When parents and teens talk about the consequences of having 'sex,' they may not take the time to define what sex is," Brady and Halpern-Felshernoted in comments to Reuters Health. "It is important for parents to help teens understand that having oral sex may result in social, emotional and physical health consequences --just as having vaginal sex may result in these consequences." In particular, the study found, girls were twice as likely as boys to say they'd ever "felt bad about themselves" after having sex, and three times more likely to say they'd felt used.

Though the study could not look at the reasons for this difference, other studies have noted that there's pressure on girls to at once be sexually attractive yet resist having sex. "In contrast, boys' sexuality and sexual behavior is generally accepted,"Brady and Halpern-Felsher pointed out. "Parents can play an important role in helping to eliminate this double standard by encouraging respect for women and discouraging the use of derogatory sexual terms." The findings are based on a series of surveys given to 618 students at two public high schools, beginning in ninth grade when they were 14 years old.Of these, 275 reported having oral sex, vaginal sex or both by the spring of tenth grade. Among the sexually active teens, those who said they'd had only oral sex were generally less likely to report negative consequences, whether physical-- pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections -- or emotional.

However, they were also less likely to report positive effects, like feeling closer to their partner or feeling good about themselves. Such positive feelings about sex were common, the study found. In fact, the teens more often reported positive effects than negative ones. This suggests that when parents talk with their kids about sex, it might be a good idea to acknowledge the potential positive outcomes, like emotional intimacy, Brady and Halpern-Felsher note in their report. Parents could then talk about other ways to find those same feelings.

SOURCE: Pediatrics, February 2007.

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Part 2 "The Boyfriend"

"The Baby & The Pregnancy"

As stated I walked up to the back of the school and there my supposed boyfriend was "he stripped me of the title" was talking to my arch enemy. They started dating.

I was embarrassed, appalled, and hurt, hey but what do you do? It's now entering the summer of 89, and 12th grade was right around the corner, heck it was the last day of school.

I remember having another argument at home with my mom, and guess what? I was told to get out! This becoming redundant. Again not having anywhere to go, I stayed with a friend that was pregnant. She put me up and her family embraced me. It was a difficult summer for what ever reasons the economy was in a slump, I could not find a job and that was a rarity.

I was sooo tired of not having anywhere to stay. It seemed like that was all my mom liked to do was kick me out. I had serious abandonment issues.

I left my pregnant friends house for a bit, and stayed with another friend, at least I thought she was, she sent me to her sisters house who had her own apartment.

I remember suspecting that this girl might have been on drugs, but I was never exposed to that so I was not sure. I was sleeping one night in the bedroom that was loaned to me. I woke up and there were 2 guys standing over me. I was like what are you guys doing over me, they were rude and cocky, they were older teens. I remember having the "scariest" feeling that something really bad was about to happen to me, had I not woke up.

We had a verbal altercation and of course I made noise and they left the room. I was in the room later the next door and over heard my so-called friend and her sister talking very negatively about me with some other girls that did not like me, (they were lying on me).

I ended up leaving there as I knew it was not going to be a pretty situation.

At that point I ended back up with my friend (who was pregnant) and she led me to her grandmother.

Her Grandmother told my mom I was pregnant, my mom gave her a trash bags with my clothes and bad mouthed me to her.

I was devastated when she came back and told me what my mom said about me. This was just so crazy for me.

The truth is, I was tired of being kicked out and not having a place to live. I was tired of not having stability in my life, so I planned my pregnancy....


Stay tuned for "The Shelter & Physical Abuse during the pregnancy"